There’s a big difference between arrogance and self-confidence.
Arrogance is oftentimes mis-placed confidence, a ‘cocky’ attitude that ultimately undermines those around you and yourself. It is dis-empowering and alienating and pushes others away. It is usually loud and dominating and a symptom of insecurity.
Self-confidence is quite the opposite. It implies leadership, a quiet self-assuredness that inspires those around you. It is a ‘knowing’ without righteousness. It brings with it humility, teach ability but at the same time, there is a steadfastness. In this space you confidently make critical decision and stand firmly in that decision. If you are challenged then you deal with that if and when it happens in a way that doesn’t distract you from your mission, vision and inner knowing of who you are. You have a deep, thorough relationship with yourself and so, when you are challenged, make a mistake, over shoot the mark etc. you are well positioned to accept it, and not take it personally. It never means you are a bad person. You are fallible however, you have the foresight to see impending outcomes and avert danger. When an error occurs you recognize this quickly and correct in super-fast time, and then move on. You don’t dwell too much on what has happened or past, but recognize it’s always about learning and then moving forwards.
Self-confidence is all about mental toughness. You know and love yourself, but not in an arrogant way, in a self-assured way.
You recognized life is a ‘game’ where you’re only purpose is to apply insight, compassion, integrity and critical thinking.
It’s only personal when you add that meaning to it, it’s up to you!
Mental toughness takes practice, just like exercising your muscles. Practice leads to resilience which leads to the ability to sit with whatever comes your way and deal with it.
Being a practice owner requires mental toughness. There will many times your decision making will be challenged. It’s not personal! Avoid at all costs, becoming arrogant. Give others the benefit of the doubt. Have the difficult conversations, confront issues quickly and efficiently. It will be your self confidence that ultimately demonstrates the leadership necessary to sustain your mission, vision and purpose. Only then will your around you enroll and continue to be enrolled in you and your practice.
Have the faith, confidence and belief in YOU.
About the Author:
Dr. Andrew Arnold (Chiropractor) is the ‘Practice Leverage Expert’; Principal Chiropractor and owner, Cranbourne Family Chiropractic and Wellness Centre; Accredited Business Coach; Founder, Million Dollar Wellness Practice. Andrew is married to Dr. Linda Wilson, the Stress Specialist and has two children, Isaac and Bella. He lives in Melbourne, Australia.